Anal Etiquette

Posted on Jul 23, 2013 in BDSM & Fetish, Blog

Anal play is one of the most common activities experimented with in BDSM play. While I’m thrilled that so many boys are willing to take it up the ass these days, there are some simple and finite rules to making an enjoyable anal play session for both you and your partner. Here are some of my recommendation (or demands, if you prefer):

1. Be clean. Yes, this means you’ll be required to take an enema or two. Personally, I enjoy making the enema part of the play (watching you squirm while your tummy is filled the to brim with warm soapy water only reinforces who is really in control), but I understand that some boys find it embarrassing to do this in front of their playmate. You can always  to procure a few enemas (you can pick them up from any local pharmacy) and give them to yourself at home right before your play date. I usually recommend two to really get yourself squeaky clean.

2. Stretch your little hole. If you really, really love anal play, I suggest you pick up a few toys of your own and wear them for a few hours a couple time of week. This will keep your bottom loose and ready for your partner to rape and pillage.

3. Bigger is not necessarily better. If you aren’t accustomed to anal play and can’t spend much time stretching yourself out, then you’ll have to start slow. It may take some time to work you up to taking large dildos or a strap-on. A tiny little butt plug may feel huge to the untested bottom. You don’t need a gargantuan toy to make it pleasurable and intense.

4. Go slow. While your fantasy may be getting fucked like a little whore by a gaggle of Dommes, that’s not something you’ll really enjoy in reality unless you’ve been properly prepared. It make take anywhere from a couple hours to a couple days to get you ready for a real, hard fucking. Don’t worry, take your time – You’ll get there 😉

5. Experiment with positions. During strap-on play you want the position to be comfortable not just for you, but also for your partner. Some positions might feel better than others. Play around and see what feels best for you.

6.  Communicate. With all things BDSM, communication is key. As good as a Domme may be, she’s not a mind reader- so tell her how it feels! Tell her what you like, what hurts, what you want more or less of continuously.